Do you ever look in the mirror and hardly recognize the woman staring back at you?
Worse, do you catch catch glimpses of your reflection and think, “Who IS that dowdy woman?”
I’ve done this at several points during my life. Each time I’d be shocked, then horrified, and finally dismayed. Then I’d vow to up my game and kick that frumpy woman to the curb and lock the door behind her.
And I would.
I’d purchase a few new pieces, start paying attention to accessories, and I’d look and feel presentable.
Until life took over again and I once more noticed that dreaded reflection.
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Life changes can knock the wind out of your fashion sail
While I’m no fashion model, I was feeling pretty good about my clothing choices and had figured out a look I was comfortable with that was flattering. But the transition from full-time employee working outside the home to a work-at-home career has left me once again wondering what to wear.
I realized one day while attempting to get dressed that I had a whole closet full of clothes for a life I was no longer living. That “fantasy self” that Kelly Snyder describes in her course had hijacked my closet. Well, the fantasy self had a lot of help because my real self hadn’t mentally transitioned and was holding on to those old clothes for dear life!
But the great thing about realizing you’re in a rut is that you don’t have to stay there. You can, of course, turn that rut into a grave that you refuse to crawl out of.
You can stay warm, comfortable….and frumpy.
Or you can realize you’re in need of a fashion update and take steps to do something about it.
Several months ago I discovered a Facebook page and blog called Adore Your Wardrobe. When she offered the free From Frustration to Functional challenge, I didn’t blink an eye before signing up. My closet, my clothes, and my lifestyle needed some help.
It was a great start! I was forced to examine my current lifestyle and wardrobe needs. It was just the kick in the seat of the pants that I needed to help me start letting go of those wardrobe pieces that no longer served me. So far I’ve gotten rid of three bags full of items – and I’ve got another bag in progress.
I also finished that challenge knowing that there was more I could do to feel better about the way I dressed. Working at home didn’t have to turn me into a complete schlumpdinka and there was more I could learn.
Now I’m sure there are people who are going to wonder why I’m taking a wardrobe course at my age and stage. I can hear it now, “Who are you trying to impress?”
I know too, that I’ll have readers who will ask themselves the same thing that I asked myself about this course. In fact, I got to questioning myself in the middle of the night about the course. So in answer to my own questions and doubts, here are the reasons I choose to invest in myself through this course.
Questions & concerns about the Adore Your Wardrobe Course
So one night, in the middle of the night, I begin to wonder whether I should take this course or not. I want to…I mean I REALLY want to. But I’m beginning to have all kinds of thoughts run through my head and I’m coming up with all the reasons why I should just save the money.
Reasons I almost talked myself out of taking the course
- I no longer work out in public therefore I shouldn’t worry about what I wear.
- I’m a little older so who cares what I look like and who do I need to impress anyway?
- Money is already tight – why should I spend it on a wardrobe course?
- My family loves me no matter what I look like or how I dress.
All the reasons why I deserve to invest in myself
Like most women I can come up with lots of reasons why I shouldn’t do something for myself. We’re so good at doing for others that it can be difficult to consider our own needs. But after a little talk with myself, these are the reasons I decided that I’m taking this course whether anyone thinks I need to or not.
- Even if I don’t work in public, I do have occasion to attend public events. And even if I work at home, I still have to have something to wear and my clothes might as well be things that make me feel good.
- I’ve tired of feeling embarrassed to answer the doorbell or to run into someone in public. My clothing choices matter because they directly impact my confidence.
- I don’t NEED to impress anyone but I do need to feel good about myself – and I haven’t lately.
- No, the course isn’t free. But neither are bad clothing choices. It doesn’t take very many mistakes and bad purchases before you’ve poured more than the cost of the course down the drain – yet still don’t have the right clothes to make me look my best. I hate to admit that some of the garments that I donated had barely (or never) been worn.
- And while my family does love me, I’m not taking the course for them. I want to take it for myself. The issue in question is how I feel about myself and the way I look. I’m never going to have the fashion model’s body, but that doesn’t mean I need to settle for looking awful. Settling for “good enough” just isn’t enough anymore. I deserve better and this is a step I’m taking to get there.
You probably don’t think twice about investing in something that will help your kids develop a skill, refine a talent, or enhance their quality of life. Most women wouldn’t hesitate in that situation. So why are we so chinchy when it comes to doing something positive for ourselves?
It’s probably because we’ve been taught to always put others first. And while that’s a good and admirable trait, it is sometimes counterproductive. There comes a time when you need to invest in yourself. Sometimes your mental health, outlook, and self-perception need a boost.
If you’ve been feeling like you’re in a rut and you’re unsatisfied with the way you look and your image, Adore Your Wardrobe may be just the thing for you. And while I am an affiliate, I’ve also been a student – and boy, did I have a lot to learn!
Of course, I always believe that knowledge is power. You should definitely take a look at the course and see if it’s for you. This may not be your thing – and that’s okay. But if it is something you need, feel free to join me. You can check it out here.
I am so anxious to begin this next phase and I’m ready to get my closet in order. It’s still hard seeing the clothing remnants of a former life go out the door, but I’m also tired of not having the appropriate things to choose from when I get dressed in the morning.
The other thing I realized in the middle of the night is this – whether it’s this course or something else, investing in yourself is never a waste!
Before you go, be sure to check out Quit Hating Your Closet, Help! I Hate My Clothes and Choose the Right Size Bra and Look Younger Immediately.