I’m sure that all of us have wise grandmothers. And if we will admit it, our mothers were probably pretty smart too (once we got past a certain age). Come to think of it, I’ve learned some pretty important lessons from my friends and even my own daughter. All of these women have wisdom to bring to the table because of their different life experiences and circumstances. It’s up to us to learn from the wise women all around us so that we can become wise women too.
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Wise women lessons about self-development
- Develop yourself before you worry about focusing on someone else.
- Get an education. No woman needs to be dependent upon a man for her survival.
- If you learn to love to read you can learn anything you ever need in life.
- You’ll never be bored if you love reading.
- The more you learn the more you realize you don’t know.
- Learn something new every day.
- Don’t wait for happiness to find you. Make yourself happy now.
- Learn everything you can. You never know when you’ll need it.
- Don’t marry someone thinking they’ll make you happy. Your happiness is your job.
- Be true to yourself. Not everyone will like it but at least you’ll be happy.
- You have to work for anything you want.
- Don’t get married simply so that you won’t be alone.
- If you wait till the right time to have a baby (quit a job, take the vacation, etc.) you’ll never do it. The right time doesn’t exist, you just have to go for it.
Lessons from wise women about money
- Be able to make your own living.
- Buy on sale – don’t pay full price for anything.
- Always keep a little money hidden in your wallet for an emergency.
- Don’t spend every penny you earn.
- It doesn’t cost any more to run the car on a full tank of gasoline than it does on an empty one.
General life lessons from wise women
- It’s easier to stay caught up than to play catch up.
- It’s better to be quiet and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and prove it. And some people are SO good at proving it.
- Always have a Plan B, and C, and D….
- You don’t have to tell everything you know.
- No one is guaranteed they’ll see tomorrow.
- Work isn’t everything.
- Pretty is as pretty does.
- Be aware of your surroundings. The name for people who don’t is “victim”.
- If you want something bad enough, you’ll work your butt off to get it and won’t give up.
- If it ain’t broke, sometimes you need to break it.
- Don’t forget to take your umbrella.
- It’s better to be prepared and not have needed something than to get caught without it.
- When your feet hurt you hurt all over.
- You can’t go wrong doing the right thing.
- Enjoy whatever stage you’re in now because it will pass faster than you realize.
- Try to live so that people will miss you when you’re gone.
- Look both ways before you cross the street. And then look again.
- If you want to remember something, write it down! Then don’t forget where you put the list.
- Trust your gut. It’s not called the second brain for nothing.
- Make up your own mind after examining all sides and facts.
- It’s easier to tell the truth than to try and remember a lie.
- Don’t put your feet or hands into places you can’t see. That’s how people get snake bitten.
- If you ever get the chance to go skinny dipping, take it.
- People who always have a book with them are never bored and are the least frustrated people in the waiting room.
- It never hurts you to do a good deed for someone else.
- Slow down! That five minutes you save by driving fast isn’t worth the possibility of taking someone’s life.
- If you live long enough life will kick the crap out of you. It’s how you cope that matters.
- When someone pays you a compliment simply smile and say, “Thank you.” Don’t start in telling them why you don’t deserve it.
- Chillax – whatever it is it’s not the end of the world.
- And a lyric from my favorite song, “If you spend too much time winning love then there’s no time to be kind.” The world would be much better off if we all spent more time being kind to others.
What wise women know about keeping house
- Never make a trip to another room empty-handed.
- Do your yard work early in the morning when it’s cool.
- The best recipes start with “a pinch of….”
- You need to know how to cook something other than tuna casserole and fudge when you get married.
- Decide today what you’re going to cook tomorrow.
- Stock up on essentials before you need them. Don’t ever run out of things you use continually.
- Don’t keep items simply because you feel guilty about getting rid of them.
Wise women speak share fashion and beauty advice
- If you’re really smart (witty, good-looking, whatever) you don’t need to tell others about it. They’ll know it when they see it.
- Don’t forget to moisturize your neck. It’s the first place that will show your age.
- Youth and age both have their own kind of beauty.
- Class never goes out of style.
- A pair of diamond studs and a pearl necklace are always appropriate and never go out of fashion.
- Don’t bite your nails.
- No matter how trendy something is, if you’re uncomfortable in it you won’t look good.
- Toss out the old fashion rules. You can wear white after Labor Day or have long hair after you’re thirty – who really cares anyway?
- Not everyone looks good in black. It makes some people look sick….or dead.
- There’s no sense in pointing out your flaws to others who may not have even noticed them.
Wise women know a thing or two about other people
- Most likely you’ll be widowed some day – you need girlfriends.
- Older people are still the same on the inside.
- Treat people the way you want to be treated.
- Stand up for the underdog – they’re the ones who need it most.
- Raise your sons to be good men and your daughters-in-law will thank you.
- You’ll miss people when they’re gone.
- People who are going to talk about you are going to do it no matter what. Forget about trying to win them over because you won’t.
- Some people won’t like you no matter what you do.
- You don’t have to like everyone but you can still be civil.
- Just because someone says something doesn’t make it true. This includes your mother, your teacher, your preacher, and your best friend.
- Usually the less people know the more they want to prove that they do.
- Don’t have a baby because you think that it will love you. Have a baby only if you’re prepared to love it whether it ever loves you back or not.
- There’s a reason they say don’t talk about politics or religion.
- Sometimes you really don’t want to know what other people are thinking.
- Your friends can get you pregnant faster than your husband can. Have you ever noticed how pregnancies come in waves? Obviously none of us is immune to peer pressure.
- Enjoy people when you’re with them. And turn the damn phone off and actually talk to them.
- You wouldn’t worry so much about what other people thought of you if you realized how infrequently they actually do.
- Just because a person has an item doesn’t mean they want to start a collection.
- No matter how old you get, your mother still sees you as her baby. And that’s not a bad thing.
What wise women can teach us about men
- The right man won’t be threatened by your brains.
- Don’t put up with any man who doesn’t treat you well.
- You can tell how a man will treat you by watching the way he treats his mother.
- Don’t date someone you wouldn’t be proud to be married to.
- Men don’t like to be nagged.
- The fastest way to get a man to do something you want is for you to get out the tools and start. He’ll be convinced you need help and he’ll step in and “help” you with the project.
- If a man hits you once he’ll hit you again. Get away from him and be damn sure not to marry him!
There will be more lessons (if I’m lucky). One thing we can be sure about is that new experiences will provide new things for us to learn.
A few other lessons I’ve learned is that it’s important to have a guiding life principle, to enjoy your birthday even when you dread getting older, and that our pets can teach some important lessons about aging.
I don’t claim to know everything. In fact, most days I can’t even claim to know very much. But I do believe that as women we have the power to teach others, and that by doing so, we can change the world.
What have you learned from a wise woman?
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